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Juroszek, W., & Ryś, M. (2019). The attachment-forming effects of the first sexual relationship. Consequences of dissolution of the first sexual relationship in light of attachment theory . Quarterly Journal Fides Et Ratio, 29(1), 37-50. Retrieved from https://fidesetratio.com.pl/ojs/index.php/FetR/article/view/510
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John Bowlby demonstrated the importance of the mother-infant relationship by examining the consequences of its disruption, which manifest themselves in disturbed responses, especially in close relationships. In this paper, it is assumed that since the termination of the first close relationship with one’s caregiver (usually mother) hampers the formation of a close attachment to other people, then perhaps also the dissolution of a significant romantic relationship may hinder the creation of a subsequent relationship. The publications quoted in this work indicate that the more sexual partners an individual has had, the more difficult it is to successfully build a lasting romantic relationship, especially in the case of women. This seems to support the attachment-forming effect of the first sexual relationship. Furthermore, other authors report negative psychological consequences caused by the breakup of a romantic relationship. The analysis of the association between mother-infant attachment and the first sexual relationship shows that both are strongly rooted in biology (drives). Therefore, the focus is on elucidating the effects of maternal and sexual drives, respectively, on relationship durability, as well as determining the implications of the imprinting process. Finally, the significance of touch in both types of relationships is discussed on the basis of, inter alia, Bowlby’s observations and Harry Harlow’s classic study into primate development. All the evidence presented supports the hypothesis that the first sexual relation has
an attachment-forming effect.
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Bowlby J. (2007). Przywiązanie. Warszawa: Wydawnictwo Naukowe PWN.
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pp. 744-766.
Bermudez, M., Buela-Casal, G., Teva, I. (2011). Type of sexual contact and precoital sexual experience in Spanish adolescents. Universitas Psychologica, 2 (10),
pp. 411-421.
Boelen, P., Reijntjes, A. (2009). Negative cognitions in emotional problems following romantic relationship break-ups, Stress and Health. Journal of the International Society for the Investigation of Stress, 1 (25), pp. 11-19.
Borusiak, L. (2013). Love, sex, and partnership. Russian Social Science Review, 1 (54), pp. 4-39.
Brassard, A., Peloquin, K., Dupuy, E., Wright, J., Shaver, P. (2012). Romantic attachment insecurity predicts dissatisfaction in couples seeking marital therapy. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 3 (38), pp. 245-262.
Chung, M., Hunt, L. (2014). Posttraumatic stress symptoms and well-being following relationship dissolution: Past trauma, alexithymia, suppression. Psychiatric Quarterly, 2 (85), pp. 176-198.
Capitaine, M., Rodgers, R., Chabrol, H. (2011). Unwanted sexual experiences, depressive symptoms and disordered eating among college students. Eating Behaviors, 1(12), pp. 86-89.
Cohen, L., Shotland, R. (1996). Timing of first sexual intercourse in a relationship: expactations, experiences, and perceptions of others. The Journal of Sex Research, 4(33), pp. 291-299.
Collins, T., Gillath, O. (2012). Attachment, breakup strategies, and associated outcomes: The effects of security enhancement on the selection of breakup strategies. Journal of Research in Personality, 46, pp. 210-222.
Farahani, F., Cleland J., Mehryar A. (2011). Female college students in Tehran. International Perspectives on Sexual & Reproductive Health, 1 (37), pp. 30-39.
Gapik, L. (1984). Psychospołeczne aspekty zachowania seksualnego, (w:) Seksuologia społeczna, K. Imieliński (red.), (s. 270-312), Warszawa: Państwowe Wydawnictwo Naukowe.
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Hazan, C., Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, pp. 511-524.
Hazan, C., Shaver, P. (1994). Attachment as an organizational framework for research on close relationships. Psychological Inquiry, 5, pp. 1-22.
Holman, T., Birch, P., Carroll, J., Doxey, C., Larson, J., Linford, S. (2001). Premarital prediction of marital quality and breakup. Research theory and practice. Dordrecht, Netherlands: Kluwer Academic Publishers.
Imieliński, K. (1985). Człowiek i seks. Warszawa: Instytut Wydawniczy Związków Zawodowych.
Imieliński, K. (1986). Zarys seksuologii i seksiatrii. Warszawa: Państwowy Zakład Wydawnictw Lekarskich.
Janicka, I. (2011). Satisfaction with marriage in the case of prenuptially cohabitating and non-cohabitating couples, (w:) H. Liberska (red.), Relations in marriage and family: Genesis, Quality and Development (s. 51-65). Bydgoszcz: Wydawnictwo UKW.
Juroszek, W. (2011). Psychologiczne konsekwencje przedmałżeńskiego współżycia seksualnego. Kwartalnik Naukowy Fides et Ratio, 3(7), s. 17-27.
Juroszek, W. (2012). Seksualność a przywiązanie. Family Forum, 2, s. 117-128.
Kalish, N. (2005). Lost & found lovers: Facts and fantasies of rekindled romances. Lincoln: iUniverse.
Kępiński, A. (1992). Z psychopatologii życia seksualnego. Kraków: Wydawnictwo Sagittarius.
Krzysteczko, H. (2000). Pomoc w dojrzewaniu do miłości, małżeństwa i rodziny. Katowice: Wydawnictwo Powiernik Rodzin.
Liberska, H., Suwalska, D. (2011). Znaczenie przywiązania dla funkcjonowania młodych dorosłych w związkach intymnych, (w:) H. Liberska, A. Malina (red.), Wybrane problemy współczesnych małżeństw i rodzin. (s. 69-86), Warszawa: Difin.
Madey, S., Jilek, L. (2012). Attachment style and dissolution romantic relationships: Breaking up is hard to do, or is it? Individual Differences Research, 4 (10),
pp. 202-210.
Maddox, S., Rhoades, G., Allen, E., Stanley, S., Markman, H. (2013). Predictors of extradyadic sexual involvement in unmarried opposite-sex relationships. Journal of Sex Research, 6 (50), pp. 598-610.
Manlove, J., Wildsmith, E., Ikramullah, E., Terry-Humen, E., Schelar, E. (2012). Family environments and the relationship context of first adolescence sex: Correlates of first sex in a casual versus steady relationship. Social Science Research, 4 (41), pp. 861-875.
Mikulincer, M., Shaver P. (2007). Attachment in adulthood: Structure, dynamics, and change. New York: Guilford Press.
Mmari, K., Kaggwa, E., Wagman, J., Gray, R., Wawer, M., Nalugoda, F. (2013). Risk and protective correlates of young women’s first sexual experiences in Rakai, Uganda. International Perspectives on Sexual & Reproductive Health, 3 (39),
pp. 153-162.
Moller, N., McCarthy, C., Fouladi, R. (2002). Earned attachment security: Its relationship to coping resouces and stress symptoms among college students following relationship breakup. Journal of College Student Development, 2 (43), pp. 213-230.
Plopa, M. (2008). Psychologia rodziny. Teoria i badania. Kraków: Oficyna Wydawnicza Impuls.
Regnerus, M. (2012). Mating market dynamics, sex-ratio imbalances and their consequences. Society, 6 (49), pp. 500-506.
Rhoades, G., Stanley, S., Markman, J. (2009). Pre-engagement cohabitation and gender asymmetry in marital commitment. Journal of Family Psychology, 4 (20), pp. 553-560.
Rhoades, G., Kamp, D., Atkins, D., Stanley, S., Markman, H. (2011). Breaking up is hard to do: The impact of unmarried relationship dissolution on mental health and life satisfaction. Journal of Family Psychology, 25, pp. 366-374.
Ruvolo, A., Fabin, L. Ruvolo, C. (2001). Relationship experiences and change in attachment characteristics of young adults: The role of relationship breakups and conflict avoidance, Personal Relationships, 3 (8), pp. 265-281.
Santhya, K., Acharya, R., Jejeebhoy, S., Ram, U. (2011). Timing of first sex before marriage and its correlates; evidence from India. Culture, Sex and Sexuality,
3 (13), pp. 327-341.
Sprecher, S. (2013). Attachment style and sexual permissiveness: The moderating role of gender. Personality and Individual Differences, 4 (55), pp. 428-432.
Stein, J., Golding, J., Siegel, J., Burman, M., Sorenson, S. (1988). Long-term psychological sequence of child sexual abuse, In: G. Wyatt, G. Powell (eds), Lasting effects of sexual abuse. London: Sage Publications.
Toshie, M., Junku, S. (2002). Adolescent’s feeling and behaviors after the dissolution of romantic relationships and availability to response. Bulletin of Joetsu University of Education, nr 1 (22), pp. 231-245.
Weisskirch, R., Delevi, R. (2012). Technology use, attachment styles and gender roles in relationship dissolution. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking,
9 (15), pp. 486-490.
Willoughby, B., Carroll. J., Busby, D. (2014). Differing relationships outcomes when sex happens before, on or after fir first dates. Journal of Sex Research, 51,
pp. 52-61.
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